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okay~ finally i hav my own blog... no doubt i'm a lazy person... tat is y i keep considering whether i'm "capable" to be a blogger or nt....haha....any way, i am a blogger nw.... xp Pie in the sky~ just randomly put tis name...mayb i wish those tragedies which happened in my life were just a dreamzz... everything will b alright after i'm awake frm my dream...will it b? well~ i noe that reality is cruel, i'll face it... To all of U : sometimes thing just out of our control, so y don't v master the things that can b control in our hand?? go0d Luck guys~
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Thursday, August 9, 2012

Compromising

   妥协 - 

是指在冲突双方互相让步的过程中以达成一种协议的局面。
 管理者可能没有触及到问题的真正核心,而是就事论事的加以妥协,因此缺乏对冲突原因的真正了解。在这种情况下妥协并不能真正的解决的问题。也可能放弃了其他更好的解决方式


If a compromise makes you feel taken advantage of, or lessens you somehow as a person, then it is an unhealthy compromise. The art of compromise must come with mutual respect, good intentions and honesty. A compromise should not diminish either person as an individual.
While there are plenty of things that should be open to negotiation in the partnership, here are a few key elements that make you who you are, that you should never compromise:


The basic moral system which most of us have firmly in place in our psyches should always be respected. Loving someone does not mean absorbing their moral values. If you compromise on these, your conscience will suffer, eventually causing you to resent your partner. Better to find a mate with similar moral values that the two of you can use as a guide throughout your lives.


self esteem - Any relationship that makes a woman feel bad about herself is an unhealthy one. If making you feel diminished somehow makes him feel more secure, or if pointing out your faults has become his favorite habit, you need to re-evaluate this person’s place in your life. Perhaps the two of you are a poor match. Perhaps, he is looking for an emotional punching bag. Whatever the case, your loved one should appreciate you, admire things about you, and be supportive. If not, cut him loose before more damage is done.



Little compromises are natural and unavoidable, but be careful not to give up too much of what is important to you for the sake of a relationship that should help to affirm who you already are.

Recources:
http://blog.californiapsychics.com/blog/2011/02/7-things-women-should-not-compromise-in-a-relationship.html
http://www.hudong.com/wiki/%E5%A6%A5%E5%8D%8F





所有改变 只为了进入你的世界 
这情节    重复了一百遍 

你划定楚河汉界 我不能轻易犯规 
所有时间   都是先给了你优先权 
不自觉 爱到不敢冒险

成了你的傀儡一年两年
才看见我有多狼狈 

爱到妥协 到头来还是无解
绑着你   不让你飞
历史不断重演 我好累

我不想在为你掉泪
我了解   不会变
不再徘徊 


08 August 12

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

对不起我的朋友……

刚游览了数位好友的网站,惊讶地发现原来我久违的朋友最近经历了人生中
所有人都必须面对的悲欢离合……

很感慨、很抱歉、很愧疚……

Monday, March 21, 2011

i knew it....


as wat i had predicted, those situations really happen....
it just lik Earthquake aftermath,which causes damage on human's properties + industrial facilities + development of particular countries....
the difference here is it affecting mY patience + mY happiness + mY family + mY friends & even mY life!!!



i don see any reason for me to show my madness & tears in front of the public,
but somehow i did cox i couldn't stand any more,
it only shows in front of those who close wif me....



although i had mentioned that i don care how people perceived me as a human being,
but it still affect my EQ in some way,
wat i'm gona say is, thanks for putting such effort & concentration on me, as a normal person, i feel the "prestige" & the spotlight around me.
 What a jOke....



any way, i stil retain the previous me!
i dono why some of those can't see the fact here...
when ur house is on-fire, fireman + water would b very helpful or it could be said that its necessity.
what if when there is a flood ??? & u still provide me fireman + water, does it making any sense?
the point here is when "the value" isn't a demand (or needs) thn it no longer perceive as "a value"....
similarly wif "u ask a doctor to defend innocence, while ask a Lawyer to conduct a surgery"





20th March
yesterday wasn't a Gd day for me,
some conflicts btw my dad & bro r still occur as usual....
it brings me to a more determined thoughts!!


people, life doesn't have a reset button & it doesn't have a take 2,
so pls appreciate ur precious time to achieve ur goals~!!!

Good Luck every1~! 

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

2011 March 8th



讨厌的心情……
复杂的心情……
是焦虑、是担忧、是不舍、是不甘……

我真的不是赌气吗?不是逞强吗?
姓蔡的,你好歹也拿起你的勇气吧?!
就这样……错过了吗?

熟悉与陌生的定义是什么?我不知道……
未来的日子,谁也不能预测,
再遗憾、再不安,一切仿佛已成定局……
我……还能扭转乾坤吗?
我……有能力吗?有资格吗?


就让一切顺着漂泊……
就让泪珠顺势飘流……
直到黎明……










9th March

昨晚做了一个恶魔,  
很真实,也很讽刺的梦,
但梦里的我却很无助……  
醒的时候,我仍然觉得恐慌,
忍不住,泪水涌出心头……
才发现,  
原来我的泪,是发自内心深处……

我真的害怕!

Friday, February 25, 2011

失去了才懂得珍惜


24th Feb 2011


........
not much to talk...
just feel doubt about myself,
am i doing things Correctly? am i still on the Right path?
which i hope it could lead me to the next level?

people dono what exactly in my mind,
& i DON'T CARE !!!
i do wat i feel it's right & put my 100% for it.
Yes, there is uncertainty & kinda risky,
 but u will never know wats the outcome, if u never tried.

i will still follow my own "mind map",
try my best to hit wat i aim for.
when the time i reach the next pit stop....
i really wish that some1 has already been there.


你真的了解故事背后的真相吗? *冷笑
你确定??
那好~就如你所愿……
不想理会一些“不必要”的嘲讽,
更不想因为那些“无关要紧”的人、事、物来伤心。
我不需向任何人交代什么,
但也得谢谢那些真正关心我的人。


Future might not be smooth as i thought of,
but whatever it is, the only thing i can say is :
i decide it, i deserve it !!



u may cry
but u stil hav to keep it on after u wipe off ur tears...

Monday, January 24, 2011

bye 24th January 2011

25th     3am

from the very beginning til now....
it keeps pop up in my mind.....
my answer vary from every time to time....

guess..... i started to give up....
giving up to look for the answer which might see as a reason to maintain my current condition
a reason that cause me to stay in tis stage.....

ppl might blame cox i'm trying to give up,
but do they noe how much i've tried?!
i have been giving each n every1 lots of chances in a sufficient period
yet it still..... fail to deliver the valuable answer....

that's it.... time to ZZZ....
gd nite Every1~ gd nite phebe~

Monday, November 22, 2010

糖果……



11月22日   约凌晨2点    晴


面子书的status:
开始觉得... 担忧...焦虑...不安... 希望一切顺利... 
突然好想提醒大家: "树欲静,而风不止;子欲养,而亲不再"






23日
我以为大家都很成熟、懂事……
结果还是……

朋友曾经劝告过我,别老是把责任往身上扛……
你们错了…… 不是我逞强,也不是我鸡婆、爱面子……
没有人希望自己的身上背着一个比自己还要来得重的“糖果”……
是糖果吗?哈~!
与其说是负担,不如选择乐观点看待某些事物……
这样的措词,或许会让我比较好过…… =)


每个人都有自己的宿命……
换句话说,每个人都有不同大小的“糖果”……
我们不能做比较(谁的比谁大/重),因为每个人的“体力”都不相同,
重要的是,那糖果……是你能撑得住的吗?
我……能吗?

Candies or Drugs? Swe3t or BitTer?
刚刚和老爸通了电…… 突然有股心酸,
总觉得自己太无能了……
怎么办呢?有些东西是非言语所能诠释的……
只有当事人最了解……

没法子了…… 唯有找个管道来抒发、抒发……
现在呢~ 只能希望一切掌控在我预期之内~
呵呵…………(冷笑)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Nov 18th

r u hapi?

wil u feel bad when there is something out there....
which manipulate ur emotion? whether it's directly or indirectly....

maybe tat's the pay back....
pay back for the effort of pursuing happiness?
maybe....

its depend....
depend on how u perceive it,
how u manage it,
how much u willing to sacrifice for it?
and....
the degree of acceptance?

some ppl able to accept it blindly, just to avoid conflict.....
some may take defensive action, just to maintain their comfort zone.....

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Monday, July 19, 2010

missing u~ u~ u~ & u~!!! =)

20th July 2010
hmmmm...... i'm sick~!!! home sick~!!! =(
hopefully i can going bc tis weekend....

u noe wat? i get some new stuff for Ivy~ =D

i went to tesco after my test, feel sad after sit for the test... ='(
thn i saw those QQ baby girl romper~
it grabbed my attention....so i just randomly stop by n took a glance,
i din expect tat i'll buy anything about tat,
n yet~ i gt 2 for the Th3 Eight... =D


i dono whether it's fit or nt.... =p
1 is for new born babies, another 1 is for 12months-baby....
cox i noe tat babies r growing super fast~ tats y i prepare the Q outfit for her ad...
=)


of course i do miss my papa mama also.... =)
but the baby is too cute until i cant get her out of my mind.... ^0^


the feelings of missing sum1 is nt tat gd....
i rather there is always some1 who missing me....
yup~ i'm afraid of tat.... 
afraid of everything which related wif r..at.o.ship....
i'm just a coward....=( 

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

你的荣幸。。。我的悲哀。。。

唉~ 太不争气了~!!!
这样的情况怎么可能发生在我身上?! 它也从未发生过。。。。
太离谱了~!!!
我必须做些什么来应付呢?


这种心情不好受,等待、期望、失落、纳闷、胡思乱想...
我快受不了了~!!!
真的太不可思议了....
我不曾预计原来我也有这样的一天....
可是还好,我认为这只不过是个过渡期,很快的,一切将回复正常...
一定是这样!!! =)




向来果断的我,决定快刀斩乱麻,干脆连根拔起!!! 哈哈哈~
好久没用我的母语来抒发心情了..... 觉得怪怪的...... =P

好吧~!!! 收拾心情,期盼着雨过天晴的到来吧!!!

你~!!再见!!!
p/s: congratulation for ur "achievement" but sorry to say tat, u've received a red card frm me...

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

hmm...

hmmm... i realize tat something fade in my life gradually....
when?? how?? Y ah?? 
how come it happen to me??

i dun think its a good sign for me but cant tag on wif negative sign oso...
i found myself at a loss for what should i do next?? how should i perceive tis sign huh??

i don't wish to put myself into troubles again...
wil it b burdensome ?? or the other way round ??

p/s: i think such feeling is cause by limited information about the object.... am i right? teehee....
it's a complicated feelings.... 

Sunday, June 13, 2010

heartache... no1 does it but u...



12th...13th...14th....
iT seems to be hectic n full of excitement....
but things go differently whn i were bc to my domain....
iT wasn't appear in they way that i thought it should b......






i noe... dun let it overcome ourselves bt v should overcome it....
anyhow, i'm just a normal girl who has emotions....
just let it b... watever.... feel downhearted wif those troubles tat i couldn't changed....





can i? wil i? should i? hah... i hav the answer with me....

Monday, May 10, 2010

i'll never 4gt about u...

10th MAY 2010

shit!!! u dare to play my feelings~!!!! 


i am totally surrendered to u...


it the first time.... 


i devoted my tears for u.....


i have not much to say....

Monday, April 19, 2010

累... 泪...?







我累了...  真的累了!!!
谁来扶持我??
我从没放弃过...   
不断地尝试...
但是一次次的打击...         
让我身心疲惫不已...
当我落下最后一滴泪水时...          
代表我心已死...
求你别再烦我...
我发誓...不留恋...~ 我眼泪干枯时...






Wednesday, April 14, 2010

..................
sorry babe.... 
i wish tat i could b there wif u now.....
i feel bad...
hear ur cry....
my heart feels pain... 
and the tears started to drop....
and yet i dono hw to make u feel better....
='( 

dear, stil remember the words tat i wrote for u last time?
Babe, u noe how much I love u~ how deep I put u in my heart~ so u must take good care of yourself, cox when u sad, I sad; when u cry, I cry; when u feel hurt, my heart feel pain…. Please remember that nobody is going to love u if u dun even love yourself~
please stay strong....
some1 need u to prop up....
i noe that life seems to b unfair....
v cant control everything in our life....
so just face it and do ur best to overcome those challenges...















Don't think of him as gone away
his journey's just begun
life holds so many facets
this earth is only one

just think of him as resting 
from the sorrows and the tears
in a place of warmth and comfort
where there are no days and years

think how he must be wishing
that we could know today
how nothing but our sadness
can really pass away

and think of him as living
in the hearts of those he touched

nothing loved is ever lost
and he was loved so much

i noe u Love m3... =(

i wonder y he love me so much...
its not the 1st time...
he always bump into me...
he keep tracking me....
he try so hard just to rule my life...
i never sense about tat previously....
but as i'm bcoming more n more mature.....
my thoughts n feelings directed me to tat conclusion....








i hate u Mr. Trouble....
sei hoi~!!! sei hoi~!!! i dun love u... nt even like....
pls go away frm me n my family...... i hope tat there is an angel comes to me n help to get rid of "him"!!!

but i noe....tat is something pie in the sky.... T_T
i'l be vry stupid if beat down by those troublesS in my life~ so... pls stay strong my dear.... "he" is not the only 1 who love u~ track u~ n concern about u~

      *wink

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

crying while u're driving is not ok?
or
its a best way to relief ur sadness/ anger/ desperate, while keep out frm others??

do u ever feel lik.... u'd rather die... ??
hav u ever scold by some1 just bcox u concerned of some1??
hav u ever critic by some1 who u helped in avoid from a unpleasant situation before??

then its time for u to learn how to manage ur EQ n stress....

h.a.h.a.

p/s:
do i like the word "family"?? i hav an unpleasant feeling towards tis word whn the alphabets come to together...
but i love it when it comprehend as "Father and Mother I Love You......"

Sunday, April 11, 2010

♪ how could it be?????





gosh..... it should be a nice & memorable weekend.... hw can i spoiled it ?!


T_T sorry.... 
i do try my best to b a professional tuorist guard + buddy... 
however, things doesn't go smoothly.... 
pls believe me, i'm nt showing my -tive side in front of u purposely.... 


i never expect tat i wil hav such reaction... its actually a serious problem for me!!! 
its another phobia!!! 
i was frightened by my own reaction.... whenever i pick it up and try to enjoy the song....
tears started to burst.... 
i am just too tired... i need a shoulder.... can some1 lend me that?? 
how much/how long i can stand for "it"?


i started to feel tat... v hav a gap in between... and the gap is growing......
such feeling is putting me into moody.... =( mayb its a fact, a fact that no1 can doubt it....
i noe every1 wil hav their own destiny, live wil stil go on and  sun wil stil rise...
will try to accept wat is actually happening in my life.... 
no matter it is good or the other way round....


dun worry.... i think what i need is just a corridor to relief the stress.... 
ph3be, u'll overcome those difficulties~!!


*update*
想通了!把每次的练习当成免费的唱K娱乐,轻松面对, 而不是把唱K的娱乐时光当做严肃的练习!
=D

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

ph3be♥ what am i looking for??

hmm.... recently.... i found tat... i started to feel stress on doing things that i usually prefer to do so whenever i'm depress.... ><'' u noe hw it feel lik?
very torturing u noe? can u imagine a monkey who lov to eat banana so much & now the monkey cannot takes banana even it is hungry~ T_T

i ♥ singing vry much.... it makes me feel relief & enjoy..... bt suddenly... my thought is changed.... i found that when i perceive it as an interest/hobby..... i can feel the happiness within myself.... but when i turn to... Erm... how to say... a capability?? i mean whn i take it as a capability that i hav & i'm trying my best to improve it, i'm no longer feel the excitement.... :(
my mood is changing....

seriously i dono wat am i trying to look for.... whether i wan to view it as 1 of my hobby which allow me to live in a happier life? or i wan to use it as a tool which may make my dream come true? wat would u choose? how do u make evaluation between these?

tis is a part from sound track tat my fren help me to record & edit it in a home studio for free.... my feelings are complicated... somehow i feel....quite +tive thought.... but sometime i feel the voice is so annoying!!!! ><
"how to improve? where to improve? when can i improve?" those question keep torturing me....

mayb is bcox i cant hav nice & quality sleeping hours.... so everything comes in my mind was so negative.... T_T i dono ..... just not feeling well in everything.... but i noe that... i will b fine soon... will try to take it easy & focus on other things that could help to achieve the other dreamSss in my life....
p/s: phebe is low motivated....

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