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okay~ finally i hav my own blog... no doubt i'm a lazy person... tat is y i keep considering whether i'm "capable" to be a blogger or nt....haha....any way, i am a blogger nw.... xp Pie in the sky~ just randomly put tis name...mayb i wish those tragedies which happened in my life were just a dreamzz... everything will b alright after i'm awake frm my dream...will it b? well~ i noe that reality is cruel, i'll face it... To all of U : sometimes thing just out of our control, so y don't v master the things that can b control in our hand?? go0d Luck guys~
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Thursday, August 9, 2012

Compromising

   妥协 - 

是指在冲突双方互相让步的过程中以达成一种协议的局面。
 管理者可能没有触及到问题的真正核心,而是就事论事的加以妥协,因此缺乏对冲突原因的真正了解。在这种情况下妥协并不能真正的解决的问题。也可能放弃了其他更好的解决方式


If a compromise makes you feel taken advantage of, or lessens you somehow as a person, then it is an unhealthy compromise. The art of compromise must come with mutual respect, good intentions and honesty. A compromise should not diminish either person as an individual.
While there are plenty of things that should be open to negotiation in the partnership, here are a few key elements that make you who you are, that you should never compromise:


The basic moral system which most of us have firmly in place in our psyches should always be respected. Loving someone does not mean absorbing their moral values. If you compromise on these, your conscience will suffer, eventually causing you to resent your partner. Better to find a mate with similar moral values that the two of you can use as a guide throughout your lives.


self esteem - Any relationship that makes a woman feel bad about herself is an unhealthy one. If making you feel diminished somehow makes him feel more secure, or if pointing out your faults has become his favorite habit, you need to re-evaluate this person’s place in your life. Perhaps the two of you are a poor match. Perhaps, he is looking for an emotional punching bag. Whatever the case, your loved one should appreciate you, admire things about you, and be supportive. If not, cut him loose before more damage is done.



Little compromises are natural and unavoidable, but be careful not to give up too much of what is important to you for the sake of a relationship that should help to affirm who you already are.

Recources:
http://blog.californiapsychics.com/blog/2011/02/7-things-women-should-not-compromise-in-a-relationship.html
http://www.hudong.com/wiki/%E5%A6%A5%E5%8D%8F





所有改变 只为了进入你的世界 
这情节    重复了一百遍 

你划定楚河汉界 我不能轻易犯规 
所有时间   都是先给了你优先权 
不自觉 爱到不敢冒险

成了你的傀儡一年两年
才看见我有多狼狈 

爱到妥协 到头来还是无解
绑着你   不让你飞
历史不断重演 我好累

我不想在为你掉泪
我了解   不会变
不再徘徊 


08 August 12

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Freedom or excuses??

...


Life become so valueless,
people just commit suicide whenever they faced some issues. They just ignore other facts that support them to stay tough/stronger...
they choose to end their lives easily, while forget about those who fight for their lives, who wish to live longer, who might suffer from illness or disease...


Same goes to our moral values.
Depreciation of moral values, increase premarital sex.
We are supposed to avoid  sexual immorality  just as we trying to avoid a lot of things.
Of course we know that we're human, we are not perfect!! And yet we still try not to kill people that we hate so much or stealing things that we desire, am i right?!



 "It seems like everyone else is having sexual relationship, so why make such a big deal about sexual sin?" 
i bet that this is the sentence which come across in ppl mind today... almost 80% of it?
There're some Hot News previously... Well-known public figures + Politicians are continually exposed for their sexual immorality, somehow it changes ppl's perception... Maybe??


Some may even said that,"Love (a relationship) comes together with sex, we cant 100%-ly hold it (relationship) without sexual engagement"

Erm, just a reminder to u guys, how pitiful it is to hold a "mate" through sex, cant you see that there are some "animals" get into a relationship just to "hunt u down" and leaving u after they're fed.
No offense.

There're studies show that women who engage in early sexual activity and those who have had multiple partners are less apt to express satisfaction in marriage life. Plus, those to avoid sex before marriage are appear to benefit from a commitment to being faithful and persevering in marriage.
Monogamous couples do not need to worry about AIDS and other sexual transmitted diseases, fear of rejection, or performance anxiety.

People think that by exploring their sexual freedom they are enhancing their pleasure and enjoyment, while in fact, are they really "enjoying without worries"?


There's no need to rush, if something is meant to be, it will happen in the right time and place, with the right person and for the best reason.

 Choose now to live right 



Little guideline here, 
1.Define what's the Needs in ur life - know ur "needs" that could make ur life become more meaningful but not miserable [yes, is ur Needs, not 'Wants'], dont trying to please others by putting the needs of others before yourself.


2.Self-respect - u should respect ur mind, body, and spirit. Ur boy/girl Loves u because of what's inside of u, not what u willing to do for them. If you don't respect yourself, why should anyone else?

Thx for the special 1 who respect me



 P/S: Hope u can received the msg behind the Music Video that i share with u =) 






You Have To Respect Yourself First. Then Others Will Respect You, Too.
Sources:
http://rabatchurch.org/sermons/sexual-immorality-what-difference-does-it-make/


http://www.livelifehappy.com/live-life-quotes/



Tuesday, March 22, 2011

最重要的决定~

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超感动的!!
从黑白配开始我就觉得他们真的天生一对了~!
超配的!好羡慕哦!

刚看完康熙(16、17号),整个哭到不行!!!太感人了啦!!!
 =')



♫ ♪ ♩   ♫ ♩  ♪   ♩ ♪ ♫


我常在想 应该再也找不到 任何人 像你对我那么好
好到我的家人也被照料 我的朋友 还为你撑腰
你还是有 一堆毛病 改不掉 傲起来 气的仙女都跳脚
可是人生 完美的事太少 我们不能什么都想要
你是我最重要的决定 我愿意 每天在你身边苏醒
就连吵架也很过瘾 不会冷冰 因为真爱没有输赢 只有亲密

你是我最重要的决定 我愿意 每天在你身边苏醒
就连吵架也很过瘾 不会冷冰 因为真爱没有输赢 只有亲密
你是我最重要的决定 我愿意 打破对未知的恐惧
就算流泪也能放弃 将心比心 因为幸福 没有捷径 只有经营

♫ ♪ ♩   ♫ ♩  ♪   ♩ ♪ ♫


我很疑惑,
我的脑海里所浮现的,
太复杂了,
我的脑袋负荷不了,
还是把它搁在一旁好了!

Monday, March 21, 2011

i knew it....


as wat i had predicted, those situations really happen....
it just lik Earthquake aftermath,which causes damage on human's properties + industrial facilities + development of particular countries....
the difference here is it affecting mY patience + mY happiness + mY family + mY friends & even mY life!!!



i don see any reason for me to show my madness & tears in front of the public,
but somehow i did cox i couldn't stand any more,
it only shows in front of those who close wif me....



although i had mentioned that i don care how people perceived me as a human being,
but it still affect my EQ in some way,
wat i'm gona say is, thanks for putting such effort & concentration on me, as a normal person, i feel the "prestige" & the spotlight around me.
 What a jOke....



any way, i stil retain the previous me!
i dono why some of those can't see the fact here...
when ur house is on-fire, fireman + water would b very helpful or it could be said that its necessity.
what if when there is a flood ??? & u still provide me fireman + water, does it making any sense?
the point here is when "the value" isn't a demand (or needs) thn it no longer perceive as "a value"....
similarly wif "u ask a doctor to defend innocence, while ask a Lawyer to conduct a surgery"





20th March
yesterday wasn't a Gd day for me,
some conflicts btw my dad & bro r still occur as usual....
it brings me to a more determined thoughts!!


people, life doesn't have a reset button & it doesn't have a take 2,
so pls appreciate ur precious time to achieve ur goals~!!!

Good Luck every1~! 

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Never hurt the heart that ♥ you

I'm so tired of obstacles that around me recently,
Lots of bad things happened,
sad news from Japan.... so many lives lost....
few things bump into me at the same time, make me confuse with mY PrincipaL~

i started to feel that "decision making" isn't that easy.... since when?
i always thought that it was just a piece of cake~ 
=D 
mayb i shall happy cox it indicates that my mind is growing-up & i see things differently. 
A piece of Pie thn... XP



16th March
just finish with my International Biz. presentation, i suppose to feel grateful & proud,
1 of my beloved tutor, Mr. Lawrence said something good on my performance...
but i found that it doesn't makes my heart smile, though its a good news for me... 
=(
i have been told that "ppl shall appreciate whatever u have in ur life"
does it means that we shall just sit back & waiting for something comes into ur life, no matter good or bad?!
i thought i'm clear enough with my aim & goal in my life,
too bad to say that.... i'm not actually....
people may lost in some way,
but i Do confirm that...
When my hope is fading & i'm losing the fight
some1 will definitely be there for me
: )
there he is~  mY superman!!!


U may love the heart that hurts u...
but never hurt the heart that loves you...
Thank You to Everyone
 who Loves me ♥

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

2011 March 8th



讨厌的心情……
复杂的心情……
是焦虑、是担忧、是不舍、是不甘……

我真的不是赌气吗?不是逞强吗?
姓蔡的,你好歹也拿起你的勇气吧?!
就这样……错过了吗?

熟悉与陌生的定义是什么?我不知道……
未来的日子,谁也不能预测,
再遗憾、再不安,一切仿佛已成定局……
我……还能扭转乾坤吗?
我……有能力吗?有资格吗?


就让一切顺着漂泊……
就让泪珠顺势飘流……
直到黎明……










9th March

昨晚做了一个恶魔,  
很真实,也很讽刺的梦,
但梦里的我却很无助……  
醒的时候,我仍然觉得恐慌,
忍不住,泪水涌出心头……
才发现,  
原来我的泪,是发自内心深处……

我真的害怕!

Friday, February 25, 2011

失去了才懂得珍惜


24th Feb 2011


........
not much to talk...
just feel doubt about myself,
am i doing things Correctly? am i still on the Right path?
which i hope it could lead me to the next level?

people dono what exactly in my mind,
& i DON'T CARE !!!
i do wat i feel it's right & put my 100% for it.
Yes, there is uncertainty & kinda risky,
 but u will never know wats the outcome, if u never tried.

i will still follow my own "mind map",
try my best to hit wat i aim for.
when the time i reach the next pit stop....
i really wish that some1 has already been there.


你真的了解故事背后的真相吗? *冷笑
你确定??
那好~就如你所愿……
不想理会一些“不必要”的嘲讽,
更不想因为那些“无关要紧”的人、事、物来伤心。
我不需向任何人交代什么,
但也得谢谢那些真正关心我的人。


Future might not be smooth as i thought of,
but whatever it is, the only thing i can say is :
i decide it, i deserve it !!



u may cry
but u stil hav to keep it on after u wipe off ur tears...

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

一个陌生人

做了一个梦……
没想到竟然再次梦见你……

梦境大纲:
当时我处在一个非常紧急的状况,超害怕,超无助……
突然,你出现了!你向我伸出援手,帮了我……
最后,你牵着我,带我回到一个让我很安心、温暖的家……

这就是一直以来,你在我心目中的形象……
我们从未正面交锋,但你却足以让我牵挂……
无可否认地……在我心中……你曾拥有过一席之地,
但你从来也只爱“纸上谈兵”……
我倦了……
所以我把你放在脑海里最深的堡垒……

可能最近发生了一些让我觉得无助的事吧~
我的潜意识把你从堡垒放了出来……
让你演出一场英雄救美的戏码,
其实当我一醒来的那一刻,我是开心的,
然后是落寞……

我知道梦归梦,
一切回归正常,
你还是你,我还是我,
各自过着自己的生活……

在这里我想借此机会祝福你……
愿你天天开心,
享受你所向往的生活,
祝福你与你的家人健健康康……

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Nov 18th

r u hapi?

wil u feel bad when there is something out there....
which manipulate ur emotion? whether it's directly or indirectly....

maybe tat's the pay back....
pay back for the effort of pursuing happiness?
maybe....

its depend....
depend on how u perceive it,
how u manage it,
how much u willing to sacrifice for it?
and....
the degree of acceptance?

some ppl able to accept it blindly, just to avoid conflict.....
some may take defensive action, just to maintain their comfort zone.....

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Monday, April 5, 2010

PhObia ♥ "the rose"


Some say love, it is a river
that drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor


that leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger,
an endless aching need.





I say love, it is a flower,










and you its only seed.

It's the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance.
It's the dream afraid of waking
that never takes the chance.
It's the one who won't be taken,
who cannot seem to give,
and the soul afraid of dyin'
that never learns to live.



 ......... 
 tis is the song that i'm listening right nw.... 
 n i'm imbue with it... 
 my mind is being filled wil lots n lots of memories..... 
 moments tat i felt hurt... ashame... emo... pain... humiliate... depress... 
 thx for ur taught.... 

viewed throw my previous blog.... it brings me laughter, bt it consist my feelings for tat moment....

And now i'm stil here~ meaning tat... "wont die bcoz of tat…"  wAkaKa....
hmm.... some1 asked me b4, "hw can u stay so long for being single?" @_@ 
does tis question involve any humiliation?? i dun feel okay wif it.... sounds lik one trying to ridicule me... =(
What is wrong with being single? I mean I want to be in a relationship one day, but I want a healthy relationship.... 
"being single is not a disease!!!" am i right? =P

Female r vulnerable, to falling in love with inappropriate people... 
at least i admit tat i am.... =p
i saw a lots of cases.... 


some of my fren r suffered cox they thought their relationship were perfect, bt then it ended up wif sadness.... its hard for us to making a judgement on whose right or wrong.... cox it is too subjective.....


somehow i found tat guys r looking for a sex partner rather than a soul mate~!!!! 
Eeyakk~~  sei hoi~!!!!

right now.... not to say that I don't have my moments....
my life is stil full of colours~ =)
i just wait until i feel tat my heart is being cured

bcox i'm just phobia wif it.......
phobia wif those feelings....
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